badonlinedaters:
It seems some lovely MRA types have been taking some of my posts and reblogging them with the tag “feminism is a hate group.” Okay, you know what? They’re absolutely right. Feminism is a hate group! Absolutely!
- I hate that random men feel entitled to touch me without my permission.
- I hate that random men feel entitled to call me “honey” “sweetheart” “doll” etc.
- I hate that random men feel entitled to tell me to “smile, it can’t be that bad!”
- I hate that random men feel entitled to physically corner me until I laugh at their sorry-ass “joke”.
- I hate that random men feel entitled to yell “yo, bitch” at me as they walk by while I’m pumping gas.
- I hate that random men feel entitled to make disgusting, lewd comments to me while I’m on my knees stocking something at work.
- I hate that men still think it’s funny to make comments about “bad women drivers” when statistics prove that women in general are safer drivers than men, and when I personally, in 18 years of driving have had zero accidents and one parking ticket for letting the meter run out five minutes before I got back to the car.
- I hate that women have internalized misogyny to the point that they, themselves, will make “bad women driver” jokes.
- I hate that my former boss took my hours away from me and gave them to two men with less work ethic, effectiveness, seniority, reliability, and proven effectiveness to do the job, then told me the only way I could get any hours at work was to start working in a department that was more traditionally “women’s work” even though it wasn’t what I’d been hired on as and was something I hated doing.
- I hate that men see the word “no” as the opening to a negotiation rather than the end of the discussion.
- I hate that customers will inevitably direct their questions to the male employee standing next to me, even though I’ve worked there for seven years and am in fact in the process of training him on his first day.
- I hate that one of the truck drivers I had to deal with thought it was fine to matter-of-factly tell me that “all women are bitches.”
- I hate that people think it’s okay to ask me why I don’t have kids, over and over.
- I hate that men feel entitled to harass me over and over for a reason why I’m not interested in them.
- I hate that women who have the nerve to say “I like sex” are called sluts. I especially hate it when it’s women calling them sluts.
- I hate that women who have the nerve to say “I don’t like sex” are called prudes, or lesbians, or told that they just haven’t had “good enough sex yet” and that the person saying that can change her mind about it.
- I hate the fact that 1 in 6 women will be raped in her lifetime.
- I hate that the “not all men” crowd apparently think it’s one single solitary mythical man committing all these rapes, and not them or anyone they know.
- I hate that a man is more likely to be raped than to be falsely accused of rape.
- I hate victim blaming and slut shaming.
- I hate that so many rapes and sexual assaults go unreported because the victim can’t take the thought of being victimized again by the victim blaming and slut shaming.
- I hate domestic abuse.
- I hate the fact that there are so many people jumping on the “she must have been a real bitch to provoke him into doing that” bandwagon when they hear about a domestic abuse case.
- I hate that female genital mutilation is a prevalent, accepted thing in certain countries.
- I hate that a little girl was shot for simply trying to go to school.
- I hate that women and girls are kidnapped and sold into sexual slavery, including parents selling their daughters as child brides.
- I hate gender-selective abortion that is perpetrated because baby girls are less valued than baby boys.
- I hate that women are denied life-saving abortions.
- I hate that men feel entitled to kill women who reject them.
- I hate that I feel the need to carry a knife everywhere and take shooting lessons to protect myself from men.
- I hate that people will think I’m paranoid for carrying a knife everywhere and taking shooting lessons to protect myself from men.
- I hate that rape is seen as a joke.
- I hate that the murder of women isn’t taken seriously.
- I hate that if the murder of a woman is taken seriously, it’s only when she’s a white, pretty, cis woman.
- I hate that men who rape, or murder a woman get less prison time (if any) than a woman who defends herself from a rapist or attacker.
- I hate that my legitimate concerns are laughed off or dismissed because I am a woman.
- I hate that my righteous anger over things that matter inspire men to brand me as an “angry feminazi” or “abrasive” or “crazy bitch”.
- I hate that the worst thing a man can be called relates to cis female anatomy or some stereotype of women as weak or emotional.
- I hate that rape is the most prevalent threat a man will make on a woman he disagrees with.
- I hate that men will tell women “you’re not even pretty enough to rape” as if attractiveness has anything to do with violence.
- I hate that this list has to be so fucking long.
- I hate that this list has to be so fucking long that probably nobody has even bothered to read this far.
- I hate that every woman on the face of the earth has been saying these things and more literally since the beginning of fucking time, and every single thing we say is getting dismissed, mocked, twisted, and used against us at every turn by willfully ignorant men clinging to the male privilege the patriarchy affords them.
- I hate that the above can be said for a significant number of women as well, due to the insidious nature of internalized misogyny.
- I hate that I just spent an hour typing something that isn’t going to do a damn bit of good to change anyone’s mind about anything.
What hellhole do you live in where men treat women like that??????
Earth.